June 28, 2019
“Change happens when the force for change is greater than the force to stay the same. Until the pain of the addiction outweighs the emotional pain that drives the addiction, there will be no change.”
For months I watched family and friends trying to help. After all, the man they loved had been falling apart it was only natural and human to want to help.
Even today, there are some beautiful souls who still want to help.
The sad truth: they can’t.
For the addict, lies don’t feel like lies. Betrayal doesn’t feel like betrayal. Self-destruction doesn’t always feel like self-destruction.
It feels like survival.
Let go of needing to fix them or change them and release them with love, for your sake and for theirs.
I love my family and friends – your emotional support has been instrumental in my recovery.
But in my active addiction, friends and family were a means to support my addiction, or an obstacle.
The best, but hardest thing to do, is let me fall and experience the consequences of my decisions.
